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Kavanaugh and Defending Sexual Assault

Boys will be boys. Rough-housing. What happens in (fill in the boys club activity) stays in (the boys club), and locker-room talk. This is some of the language used to defend behaviors in boys, and men, to describe otherwise reprehensible behavior. B...

Rules of (couples) Engagement: Strike When the Iron is Cold

I know I know…the motto is “strike when the iron is hot”. There are quite a few situations in life where I believe that is sound advice. But between couples, with difficult issues between them, your best bet for fair fighting is addressing issues whe...

Surviving Trump’s America as it Turns Toward Hate: Chop Wood, Carry Water, and Laugh with Friends

It isn’t sustainable. The ongoing shock, panic, horror and emotional devastation resulting from the daily barrage of thoroughly unbelievable atrocities and absurdities promulgated by Trump and his administration. Besides having to somehow try to meta...

Anthony Bourdain, and Why I Talk to My 10 Year Old about Suicide

Audre Lourde warns us "Your Silence won't Protect you". It won't protect your children either. We must talk to them, even about the most dark of subjects, including suicide.
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Perversity and Power in Sex Isn’t a Problem, in Fantasy or With Consent

We are currently involved in a national dialogue about sexual harassment, abuse, rape, and molestation, of young people, employees, job applicants, and others who are vulnerable to the abuses of power. Many of us are reading horrifying stories daily ...
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Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Racism

The events and dialogue surrounding this month's march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people. Even ...
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An Impactful Change You Can Successfully Make

Making this one change prepares the foundation for all kinds of growth and change. It is something you already do, all day long, that you just have to learn how to do differently. And you really must, because it is highly likely that how you are doin...
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It’s Not the Glass That’s Half Full/Empty; It’s the Breast

We judge each other as dispositioned towards negativity or positivity, scarcity or abundance, as if it is a chosen disposition. We imagine the concept of a glass half full or half empty as a perspective that people choose. We go so far as to consider...
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Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

An element of a good psychotherapy, the one which requires the most skill and psychological strength from the therapist, is our work at uncovering early childhood dynamics (archeology) impacting our daily patterns (dances). Whatever brings folks t...

Confessions of a Popaholic: An Erotic Fetish

You likely wish you didn’t know how some psychotherapists care about your poop/pee/breast feeding and how cigarettes/cigars might be symbolically linked to a wish to suckle on a breast or fixation on penises. Sorry, but it is true. And given that, how is it we don’t think about pimple popping.