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Managing Christmas Expectations

Over-blown expectations surrounding major holidays can often diminish the joy available. Thoughts on how to enjoy Christmas.
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Headline Your Needs!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yjy3hRyLjv0 You are radically more likely to get your basic needs meet when you communicate needs clearly to your partner/friend/boss/parent. Examples: "I could use for you to hear me out before you respond" ...
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Should I go to Psychotherapy?

The short answer to if you should go to psychotherapy is Yes! To start, the question shouldn't be if you need therapy, but would it benefit you. Very few people need therapy, and only in a few circumstances. When need is the issue, we are usua...
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What Should I Talk about in Therapy Today?

Most clients know that some of their best sessions happen when they don’t know what their therapy topic is going to be. In the absence of an external event to report, the unconscious manages to insert itself into what feels like random meanderings of...
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Listen to your Unconscious

Freudian slips, dreams, songs that get stuck in your head: they are all efforts by your unconscious to direct you to issues burdening your mind that part of you is resistant to addressing.
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On Kissing, Tickling and Being Bored

"On Kissing, Tickiling and Being Bored: Psychoanalytic Essays on the Unexamined Life" by Adam Phillips. Here is a new feature of my blog...book recommendations. I wanted to start with one of my favorite analytic books of all time.  It is a great r...

Thanksgiving Gluttony, Gratitude, and Black Friday Greed

Thoughts on gratitude, greed and gluttony.
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Anxiety, Medication and Lost Decades

Both my client and I sat with such a strange mixture of feelings tonight. In the past 2 weeks his life has radically changed for the better. A burden that has been eating him alive for over 30 years has been lifted. After having spent 20 years of his...
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Quarantine Your Business

S: “I have been thinking about maybe going away for a three day weekend” L: “Me too! Where should we go”? S: “Remember when we stayed at the cabin? That is still one of my favorite vacations we have taken. It was so relaxing”. L: “But it...

Psychotherapy Myths

This is a video blog discussing myths about psychotherapy, therapists and clients that prevent some folks from using this uniquely potent tool for crafting a better life. Smith is and analytically oriented psychotherapist with 25 years in prac...