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It’s Not the Glass That’s Half Full/Empty; It’s the Breast

We judge each other as dispositioned towards negativity or positivity, scarcity or abundance, as if it is a chosen disposition. We imagine the concept of a glass half full or half empty as a perspective that people choose. We access people as being n...
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Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

An element of a good psychotherapy, the one which requires the most skill and psychological strength from the therapist, is our work at uncovering early childhood dynamics (archeology) impacting our daily patterns (dances). Whatever brings folks t...
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Thinking About Divorce or Suicide? Stop it! For 6 Months

When we are considering giving up, on our relationship, or on life itself, our thoughts become narrowed to whether or not we are going to give up, and how we would leave if we decide we are done. From thoughts in divorce about how we would afford mov...
Speak The Truth

Run, Don’t Walk into Therapy

A blog about therapy; and how you should run, not walk, to begin your therapy journey. Folks compare a lot of things to psychotherapy, like hikes in nature, talks with a good friend, meditation, and even confessions to a priest. All those things ar...
Bored Young Man.

Client Irritating You? Boring You? It is Useful Counter-Transference

When we tell someone at a party that we are a psychotherapist, they inevitable ask “Don’t you get bored hearing about everyone’s problems”? Or “Doesn’t it get irritating listen to people complain about their problems all day”? Most therapists would a...
Two Girls Whispering.

6 Openings for Talking to Kids About Sex and Gender

As parents, a lot of us have our fingers crossed. We hope our kids won’t have sex until they are grown. And that they will land on the easiest and least controversial path possible. It is a reasonable wish, but can’t be turned into a parenting goal w...
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Your Client Wishes You Were Friends; Its Oedipal

Sometimes clients express their wish that we could be friends. Sometimes the feeling is even mutual. There may be practical reasons, such as aspects of our personalities that align in such a way that we imagine a friendship would be viable. But this ...
Newborn Crying.

Psychoanalytic Mother Lovers: 3 Theories for Mom’s Day

It is true that no analyst or analytically oriented psychotherapist worth seeing is interested in anything else as attentively as our moms*. But really, who can deny it: moms are centrally key in all our lives. *Moms are sometimes Dads, or Aunts, ...
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Attending to the Unconscious in a Psychotherapy Session

Sigmund Freud postulated that for psychoanalysis to be effective, the client must share with the analyst all that crosses their mind during the course of the clinical hour. Whether their thoughts are deemed by them to be relevant and consequential or...
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“Why Would I Do Something So Stupid?!” 3 Tools for Answers

“What is wrong with me”? “Why do I do this to myself”? “Why do I keep making the same mistakes”? These are common questions clients have when talking with a psychotherapist. Or a friend about an incident we are upset about. Or to our journals or t...