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In Defense of Long Term Psychotherapy

Long term psychotherapy gets a bad rap in the age of managed care and evidenced based concrete treatments. But long term therapy offers transformation, of the way we see ourselves, our relationships and our world. In the video, eating disorders ar...
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Up-selling Psychotherapy: Are Therapists Even Allowed To Do That?

Up-selling is a term borrowed from the business world. While the concept seems counter-intuitive to a therapist salary, many of us are additionally small business owners. The fact that we are in a helping profession, doesn’t mean our psychotherapist ...
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Does My Therapist Care About Me? Is That What I Pay Them For?

It is a reasonable question. "Does my therapist like me"? In the bizarre, boundaried, prescribed therapist/client relationship, where clients can come to have such potent feelings about their therapists, it is fair for the client to wonder where they...
Kavanaugh's Alter Ego.

Kavanaugh Believes Himself. He Has Disavowed His Shadow Twin

Kavanaugh's tears were real. He was devastated that his good boy, church-going, sports and beer loving, devoted son, persona was being brought down. It is part of his true self. A part of himself he is very proud of. But he has another true self. ...
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Kavanaugh and Defending Sexual Assault

Boys will be boys. Rough-housing. What happens in (fill in the boys club activity) stays in (the boys club), and locker-room talk. This is some of the language used to defend behaviors in boys, and men, to describe otherwise reprehensible behavior. B...
Sad Child Looking Out Window.

Anthony Bourdain, and Why I Talk to My 10 Year Old about Suicide

Audre Lourde warns us "Your Silence won't Protect you". It won't protect your children either. We must talk to them, even about the most dark of subjects, including suicide.
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Perversity and Power in Sex Isn’t a Problem, in Fantasy or With Consent

We are currently involved in a national dialogue about sexual harassment, abuse, rape, and molestation, of young people, employees, job applicants, and others who are vulnerable to the abuses of power. Many of us are reading horrifying stories daily ...
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Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Racism

The events and dialogue surrounding this month's march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people. Even ...
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It’s Not the Glass That’s Half Full/Empty; It’s the Breast

We judge each other as dispositioned towards negativity or positivity, scarcity or abundance, as if it is a chosen disposition. We imagine the concept of a glass half full or half empty as a perspective that people choose. We access people as being n...
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Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

An element of a good psychotherapy, the one which requires the most skill and psychological strength from the therapist, is our work at uncovering early childhood dynamics (archeology) impacting our daily patterns (dances). Whatever brings folks t...