Tag: childhood

Are My Parents Disappointed in Me?

Even as adults, we can worry if our parents are disappointed in us. We all seek basic parental approval which can be tough to get if our parents had a very specific image of who they hoped we would be. Sometimes the things we are most proud of in our...
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Do I Need to Hate My Parents to Get Better?

Some folks fear they are going to be asked to hate their parents by their therapist. In a world where we agree it is good to move on, let go of the past, and live in the present, it can seem contradictory that therapists as interested in our childhoo...
Sad Child Looking Out Window.

Anthony Bourdain, and Why I Talk to My 10 Year Old about Suicide

Audre Lourde warns us "Your Silence won't Protect you". It won't protect your children either. We must talk to them, even about the most dark of subjects, including suicide.
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Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Racism

The events and dialogue surrounding this month's march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people. Even ...
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An Impactful Change You Can Successfully Make

Making this one change prepares the foundation for all kinds of growth and change. It is something you already do, all day long, that you just have to learn how to do differently. And you really must, because it is highly likely that how you are doin...
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It’s Not the Glass That’s Half Full/Empty; It’s the Breast

We judge each other as dispositioned towards negativity or positivity, scarcity or abundance, as if it is a chosen disposition. We imagine the concept of a glass half full or half empty as a perspective that people choose. We access people as being n...
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Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

An element of a good psychotherapy, the one which requires the most skill and psychological strength from the therapist, is our work at uncovering early childhood dynamics (archeology) impacting our daily patterns (dances). Whatever brings folks t...
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Colin Kaepernick, Beyoncé, Chappelle and the Protest of Black Lives Matter

As during most weeks of this past year, social media has been rife with commentary related to issues of race, justice and protest. Many folks reacted with rage at the form some of the protest took, in particular Colin Kaepernick’s decision to remain ...
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Three Key Fathers Parenting Jobs, Analytically Speaking

Psychoanalytic theory pays plentiful attention to the role mothers play in early childhood development. The first weeks of life are dominated by the mother-infant relationship, often referred to in the analytic world as the nursing couple*. (To be cl...
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Made Your New Year’s Resolution? Read This

Most folks make New Years resolutions about their most core issues. With or without our own awareness of the links, the issues that plague us year after year are entrenched because they deeply rooted in themes from childhood. We love to think that...