Tag: self esteem

Are My Parents Disappointed in Me?

Even as adults, we can worry if our parents are disappointed in us. We all seek basic parental approval which can be tough to get if our parents had a very specific image of who they hoped we would be. Sometimes the things we are most proud of in our...
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Do I Need to Hate My Parents to Get Better?

Some folks fear they are going to be asked to hate their parents by their therapist. In a world where we agree it is good to move on, let go of the past, and live in the present, it can seem contradictory that therapists as interested in our childhoo...
Kavanaugh's Alter Ego.

Kavanaugh Believes Himself. He Has Disavowed His Shadow Twin

Kavanaugh's tears were real. He was devastated that his good boy, church-going, sports and beer loving, devoted son, persona was being brought down. It is part of his true self. A part of himself he is very proud of. But he has another true self. ...
Throwing Nazi Symbol in Trash. Featured Image for "Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Racism" blog post.

Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Racism

The events and dialogue surrounding this month's march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people. Even ...
Wheel of Negativity. Featured Image for "An Impactful Change You Can Successfully Make" blog post.

An Impactful Change You Can Successfully Make

Making this one change prepares the foundation for all kinds of growth and change. It is something you already do, all day long, that you just have to learn how to do differently. And you really must, because it is highly likely that how you are doin...
Walking In Autumn.

A Snarky Size Activist and 3 Benefits of My Stupid Fitbit

I am a large woman, who worked for a decade on size-activism. My work included helping women both love their bodies more, regardless of size or appearance, but also on reducing the importance they place on their appearance. More controversial, I also...
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“Why Would I Do Something So Stupid?!” 3 Tools for Answers

“What is wrong with me”? “Why do I do this to myself”? “Why do I keep making the same mistakes”? These are common questions clients have when talking with a psychotherapist. Or a friend about an incident we are upset about. Or to our journals or t...