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A Single Person’s Pandemic Pal Template Plan

We all need a plan we coordinate with others about how to take care of ourselves and protect others if we become compromised by the virus. This template is to help you build a plan to keep everyone safe should you become too ill to make the plan later.

Mar 28th, 2020
Honor Your Fears: A Hypochondriacs Guide to the Corona Virus

Are you over-reacting? Are you under-reacting? Taking this all seriously enough, or maybe taking it way too far? The thing is, there isn’t really any way for us to know how far is too far. But there are ways to keep grounded, which we must do.

Mar 20th, 2020
Real Psychotherapy Has to Happen at Least Once a Week

Psychotherapy exists in the realm of the symbolic. The target of change is not the drama of the week. Therapists are not sounding boards or shoulders to cry on. We offer those things, but we have significantly more sophisticated tools to offer clients.

Feb 21st, 2020
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Categories include Couples Corner, For Therapists, Thoughts on Therapy, Children/Parents/Parenting, Anxiety and Depression, The Trump Effect, Creating Change, Analytic takes of Stories on the News, Isms, Video Blogs, and Misc including Zits & Perfectionism

Nov 23rd, 2019
What is Wrong with Me? My Life isn't THAT Bad.

Sometimes we experience our upset as disproportionately large compared to how much we think we should be suffering. This may be in part because we are living with a memory of a time when we were much younger and much smaller with a very big load to carry.

Sep 24th, 2019
#DoINeedTherapy?

To start, the question shouldn’t be if you need therapy, but if it would benefit you. Few people need therapy, and only in a few circumstances.

Jul 13th, 2019
#MythsaboutPsychotherapy

Psychotherapy myths about therapists, clients, why people go to therapy, and the therapy itself prevent some folks from using this uniquely potent tool for crafting a better life.

Nov 18th, 2014
Do Therapists Go To Therapy, And If So Are They Crazy?

The confusion evidenced by this question is the view of psychotherapy itself. It assumes therapy is for crazy people, or at a minimum people who are not well. Psychotherapy is a tool for crafting the person we want to be and the life we want to live.

Jul 30th, 2020
How Does Psychotherapy Work? More Complexly Than You Imagine

Therapists aren't just really good listeners, or solid shoulders to cry on. We aren't sages with wise advise when you are gathering opinions from folks around you. What we bring to our work is expertise in how the unconscious communicates.

May 30th, 2020
Tools of the Trade for Treating Couples: See and Point

Therapists often avoid couples work, in part because couples bring so much rage and fear to sessions. But also because the work is simply so different than individual therapy. As a devoted couples therapist, here is one of the tools I rely on in sessions.

Mar 7th, 2020
I am Not a Mushy, Kind, Loving, Do-Gooder Social Worker

Psychotherapy isn't an act of loving kindness. Love can compromise the more meaningful work therapist can offer. If a loving good listener is all takes to get better, you don't need an extensively educated rigorously trained, expensive clinician.

Feb 29th, 2020
How Long Should I Go to Therapy, and At What Frequency?

In a world of quick fixes and self-help books, it is daunting to commit to long-term relational psychotherapy. The problem is that if it was easy to understand why you were so stuck, you would understand it. If there were easy answers to the issues t

Feb 10th, 2020
What to Talk About in Therapy

Psychotherapy is not meant to be limited to addressing external, concrete dilemmas of the week. The realm of psychotherapy is the resolution of central, ongoing, internal conflicts.

Dec 4th, 2019
How Can Therapy Help When The World Is The Problem?

Some would question how therapy could help if the political climate is a primary source of distress, since individual psychotherapy certainly cannot change our political climate. I have two answers to that question.

Oct 31st, 2019
Are You a Narcissist, or Just Have Good Self-Esteem?

Narcissism is often treated as if it is inherently a bad thing, but it is actually just another word for self-love. Getting through the hardships and blows of life requires a fairly solid amount of positive self-regard and healthy narcissism is the key.

Oct 24th, 2019
Psychotherapy is a Great Tool

People compare many things to therapy: hikes in nature, talks with a good friend, meditation, and even confessions to a priest.

Jul 14th, 2019
CEU Education: Fees, Slides and Cancellation Ethics

Some basic policy questions: How do you or your agency determine service fees? Do you or your organization offer a sliding scale? If, so, to whom, under what circumstances? What is your or your agency’s late cancellation policy?

Dec 25th, 2018
Defending #LenaDunham, Kind Of: Being Messed Up

Lena Dunham didn’t get it just a little wrong. She got it massively wrong. She did a truly horrible thing. She protected a man accused of sexual harassment because she didn’t want to believe he did it.

Dec 9th, 2018
Treating Nazis: #Analytic Considerations on Racism

The events and dialogue surrounding this month’s march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people.

Aug 27th, 2017
#Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

An element of a good psychotherapy, the one which requires the most skill and psychological strength from the therapist, is our work at uncovering early childhood dynamics (archeology) impacting our daily patterns (dances).

Apr 2nd, 2017
When your Client is Racist; In 3 Not So Easy Steps

Of all the many bridges we cross in our work to join our clients, isms can not only significantly compromise our ability to empathize, sympathize, and understand where are clients are coming from, but they can literally reduce our interest or capacity.

Feb 21st, 2017
Why Are Young Feminists So Angry?

Here is my current contribution to the perennial debate about why some folks hate feminists, the concept of feminism, and consistently see them as “angry feminists”.

Sep 28th, 2015
Anger Matters

This is a text I received from my 7 year old son one morning upon realizing I wasn’t going to the zoo with his class that day.

Jul 13th, 2015
Time is my #HigherPower

When I first entered 12 Step recovery in my early 20’s I was faced with the daunting task of identifying a “Higher Power”.

Jan 12th, 2015
#NoArguing in Bed

I don’t mean arguing right before we go to sleep. While it sucks when that happens, sometimes it happens and makes most sense to have the fight then.

Nov 16th, 2014
Go To #Psychotherapy Now

A blog about psychotherapy Folks compare a lot of things to psychotherapy, like hikes in nature, talks with a good friend, meditation, and even confessions to a priest.

Nov 15th, 2014

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