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Are You a Narcissist, or Just Have Good Self-Esteem?

Narcissism is often treated as if it is inherently a bad thing, but it is actually just another word for self-love. Getting through the hardships and blows of life requires a fairly solid amount of positive self-regard and healthy narcissism is the key.

Oct 25th, 2019
What is Wrong with Me? My Life isn't THAT Bad.

Sometimes we experience our upset as disproportionately large compared to how much we think we should be suffering. This may be in part because we are living with a memory of a time when we were much younger and much smaller with a very big load to carry.

Sep 25th, 2019
How Can Therapy Help When The World Is The Problem?

Some would question how therapy could help if the political climate is a primary source of distress, since individual psychotherapy certainly cannot change our political climate. I have two answers to that question.

Nov 1st, 2019
Psychotherapy is a Great Tool

People compare many things to therapy: hikes in nature, talks with a good friend, meditation, and even confessions to a priest.

Jul 14th, 2019
But Do I Need Therapy?

To start, the question shouldn’t be if you need therapy, but if it would benefit you. Few people need therapy, and only in a few circumstances.

Jul 14th, 2019
CEU Education: Fees, Slides and Cancellation Ethics

Some basic policy questions: How do you or your agency determine service fees? Do you or your organization offer a sliding scale? If, so, to whom, under what circumstances? What is your or your agency’s late cancellation policy?

Dec 25th, 2018
Defending Lena Dunham, Kind Of: Being Messed Up

Lena Dunham didn’t get it just a little wrong. She got it massively wrong. She did a truly horrible thing. She protected a man accused of sexual harassment because she didn’t want to believe he did it.

Dec 9th, 2018
Treating Nazis: Analytic Considerations on Racism

The events and dialogue surrounding this month’s march by white supremacists, KKK, skin heads and neo Nazi’s in Charlottesville have left many of us shocked by the display of such blind hatred and aggression towards whole populations of people.

Aug 27th, 2017
Psychotherapist as a Dance Archeologist

An element of a good psychotherapy, the one which requires the most skill and psychological strength from the therapist, is our work at uncovering early childhood dynamics (archeology) impacting our daily patterns (dances).

Apr 2nd, 2017
When your Client is Racist; In 3 Not So Easy Steps

Of all the many bridges we cross in our work to join our clients, isms can not only significantly compromise our ability to empathize, sympathize, and understand where are clients are coming from, but they can literally reduce our interest or capacity.

Feb 21st, 2017
Angry Young Feminists

Here is my current contribution to the perennial debate about why some folks hate feminists, the concept of feminism, and consistently see them as “angry feminists”.

Sep 29th, 2015
Anger Matters

This is a text I received from my 7 year old son one morning upon realizing I wasn’t going to the zoo with his class that day.

Jul 14th, 2015
Time is my Higher Power

When I first entered 12 Step recovery in my early 20’s I was faced with the daunting task of identifying a “Higher Power”.

Jan 13th, 2015
Quarantine Your Business

It is completely routine for couples to say and ask random things about the chores and business of the running of a house and life in the middle of otherwise lovely conversations.

Nov 20th, 2014
Psychotherapy Myths

Psychotherapy myths about therapists, clients, why people go to therapy, and the therapy itself prevent some folks from using this uniquely potent tool for crafting a better life.

Nov 18th, 2014
No Arguing in Bed

I don’t mean arguing right before we go to sleep. While it sucks when that happens, sometimes it happens and makes most sense to have the fight then.

Nov 16th, 2014
Go To Psychotherapy Now

A blog about psychotherapy Folks compare a lot of things to psychotherapy, like hikes in nature, talks with a good friend, meditation, and even confessions to a priest.

Nov 15th, 2014

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