Even as adults, we can worry if our parents are disappointed in us. We all seek basic parental approval which can be tough to get if our parents had a very specific image of who they hoped we would be. Sometimes the things we are most proud of in ourselves are not appreciated by our family. It is worth noting if we share enough common values with our parents before judging ourselves through their eyes.
Karen L. Smith MSS LCSWKaren is the founder and director of Full Living: A Psychotherapy Practice, which provides thoughtful matches for clients seeking therapists in the Philadelphia Area. She provides analytically oriented psychotherapy, and offers education for other therapists seeking to deepen and enriching their work with object relation concepts.
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Sometimes we experience our upset as disproportionately large compared to how much we think we should be suffering. This may be in part because we are living with a memory of a time when we were much younger and much smaller with a very big load to carry.