Communication skills are key to turning couples fighting into vehicles for relationship growth and change or just increasing injury and disconnection. You are radically more likely to get your basic needs meet when you communicate needs clearly to your partner/friend/boss/parent.
“I could use for you to hear me out before you respond” “I just need to vent right now; I don’t need you to fix anything or give me suggestions right now” “I am feeling really tender, so I need you to be gentle” “I am not mad at you; I am just really frustrated right now”
Well intended folks can get it really wrong, so being clear about what you want can help them hear and respond with your stated needs in mind. Give it a try; like headlines before an article!
Smith is an analytically oriented psychotherapist with 25 years in practice. She is additionally the Founder/Director of Full Living: A Psychotherapy Practice, which specializes in matching clients with seasoned clinicians in the Greater Philadelphia Area.
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Karen L. Smith MSS LCSWKaren is the founder and director of Full Living: A Psychotherapy Practice, which provides thoughtful matches for clients seeking therapists in the Philadelphia Area. She provides analytically oriented psychotherapy, and offers education for other therapists seeking to deepen and enriching their work with object relation concepts.
In the debate about Britney's conservatorship, many are trying to argue that she wasn't or isn't competent enough to make her own decisions. How many of us have make such stellar life choices that we should get to run some else life too? Jamie Spears?
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