Some folks fear they are going to be asked to hate their parents by their therapist. In a world where we agree it is good to move on, let go of the past, and live in the present, it can seem contradictory that therapists as interested in our childhood.
But to move on first requires that we understand our injuries and suffering. We need to access what we did and didn’t get in childhood. The goal is not because parents are to blame, but simply to understand our experience.
Narcissism is often treated as if it is inherently a bad thing, but it is actually just another word for self-love. Getting through the hardships and blows of life requires a fairly solid amount of positive self-regard and healthy narcissism is the key.
Sometimes we experience our upset as disproportionately large compared to how much we think we should be suffering. This may be in part because we are living with a memory of a time when we were much younger and much smaller with a very big load to carry.
Some would question how therapy could help if the political climate is a primary source of distress, since individual psychotherapy certainly cannot change our political climate. I have two answers to that question.
Because so many people have felt depressed before, they imagine what worked for them can also help the clinically depressed person. They are wrong and their advice is more likely to hurt the person suffering from real Depression.