Movies provide opportunities to explore landscapes of human emotion and relationships. Animated children’s movies are no exception. Like classic fairy-tales, the stories that last do so because they resonate for the child at an unconscious level, offering universal truths about life. Frozen 2 provides its audience with lessons about following your instincts, trusting yourself, fulfilling your longings, relying on those you love, facing change, stepping into your power, and going on, no matter what.
I could absolutely write a post about each and every song in this lovely, powerful, important story. My decision to write about “The Next Right Thing” is it is a key life lesson, and one many have not sufficiently learned. Dori from Finding Nemo also tried to teach us to “just keep swimming”. But in Frozen we hear this message from someone in active grieving, in heaviness and gravitas.
The lyrics offer us a lesson, but for me it was made more powerful knowing that its singer, Kristen Bell, is intimately familiar with struggling with your own mind. She has been open and outspoken about her own difficulties with mental health, including Depression and Anxiety.
The character of Anna does not have Clinical Depression or Anxiety. In her case, she is faced with debilitating grief that threatens to paralyze her. But being overcome with immobilizing levels of fear, hopelessness, and overwhelmedness has many origins. Depression and anxiety can be crippling. Loss, grief and mourning can render us despondent. The daily challenges of life itself can leave us feeling unable to function.
In a world that feels increasingly burdensome, going on is no easy task. Millennials refer to the daily challenge of functioning as “adulting”. The word has taken hard criticism by everyone who isn’t a millennial arguing that it is infantilizing of women and over-inflates the tasks associated with daily life. What the criticism doesn’t seem to metabolize is the undue burdens this generation shoulders. Our failure to understand why they experience life often overwhelmingly difficult does not make it untrue.
Certainly there is no easy answer to any of these conditions, and no song that can fix hopelessness and dread. But of all the absurd things people tell the grieving, depressed or overwhelmed person, “do the next right thing” is a gem. It is indeed the only doable thing. And it helps build a small reserve, and open the space, to do the next right thing after that.
I've seen dark before
But not like this
This is cold
This is empty
This is numb
The life I knew is over
The lights are out
I'm ready to succumb
I follow you around
I always have
But you've gone to a place I cannot find
This grief has a gravity
It pulls me down
But a tiny voice whispers in my mind
"You are lost, hope is gone
But you must go on
And do the next right thing"
Can there be a day beyond this night?
I don't know anymore what is true
I can't find my direction, I'm all alone
The only star that guided me was you
How to rise from the floor
When it's not you I'm rising for?
Just do the next right thing
Take a step, step again
It is all that I can to do
The next right thing
I won't look too far ahead
It's too much for me to take
But break it down to this next breath
This next step
This next choice is one that I can make
So I'll walk through this night
Stumbling blindly toward the light
And do the next right thing
And with the dawn, what comes then
When it's clear that everything will never be the same again?
Then I'll make the choice
To hear that voice
And do the next right thing
Smith is an analytically oriented psychotherapist with 25 years in practice. She is additionally the Founder/Director of Full Living: A Psychotherapy Practice, which specializes in matching clients with seasoned clinicians in the Greater Philadelphia Area.
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